3 reasons why it's okay to say no
No, seriously, it OK
Most of life’s troubles come from doing what we don’t want to do.
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” ~Josh Billings
Sometimes we feel obligated to do things that we don’t want to do, things that we don’t have time for, and wear ourselves out in order to do them. We then think about the things we could have been doing, if we hadn’t said yes, which only creates more anxiety and stress before we even have the chance to actually start whatever it is we agreed to.
I’m here to remind you that it’s OK to say no. It’s not mean, or disrespectful to think about yourself first.
It’s OK to say no if you’d rather stay home and cuddle up rather than going out with friends.
It’s OK to say no if you’re tired.
It’s Ok to say no without a detailed excuse.
You have to remember that people are always going to have a request, that’s never going to change, so it’s OK to put yourself first.
Here are the 3 reasons why it’s okay to say no:
1. You can’t control anyone’s perception of you
People are going to judge you no matter what you do, and honestly you can’t make everyone happy without making yourself miserable. You are not the only one who is capable of completing a task, so say no, or ask someone else to do it. Don’t worry about displeasing others, you can’t control how they feel, but you can control how you feel.
2. You need to take care of you
It’s important that you look after yourself, if that means saying no and pushing back a bit, so be it. Realizing that your physical and mental health is your top priority will allow you to do more for yourself and others. Taking care of yourself is like indirectly taking care of those you care about. Say no so you can say yes.
3. Your time is valuable, don’t lose control of it
Saying yes all the time, can be a waste of your time, and it will be very easy to lose control and create chaos in your life. This can very quickly take a toll on you, and your loved ones around you. Understand your time is precious, and be very careful with how you spend it.
This isn’t to say, be selfish and only think about yourself, it’s to say be conscious of how you feel and how you spend your precious time. We are a nurturing species (well most of us anyway); it can be very easy for things to pile up on our plate, especially because we want to please everyone, but we can’t pleas everyone, so let’s at least try taking care of ourselves.
It’s OK to say no.
It’s OK to take care of you.
Let us know in the comments below what you think? Have you ever felt overwhelmed trying to please everyone? What do you think you can do to relieve some of the stress on saying ‘yes’ all the time?
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